Our Need for Mothers

The influx of socialist and feminist principles has infiltrated society and leaves many families without the cherishing stability provided by mothers.

It is a natural desire, placed on the soul of every person by God, to crave both the protection of a father and the nurturing stability of a mother. Our world, which desperately seeks the authoritative love of fathers, is also devoid of the nurturing love of mothers. If we only care to view motherhood from advertisements, social media posts, and internet influencers, then our analysis is quite distorted. By modern-day internet standards, the early stage of motherhood appears to assume a nurturing and devoted nature. 

Yet, as businesses provide an endless supply of maternity fashions, infant classes, baby items, and postpartum accessories, a huge component of motherhood is ignored: a consistent need to nurture a child with love and stability through all phases of life. Modern society promotes the beauty of motherhood in the early stages of pregnancy and infancy; but as the child grows, society deviates from the importance of structured family life. It is society’s attempt toward a “modern motherhood” that leaves families without the stability of a nurturing mother.

Throughout the centuries, women naturally have brought people together. It is in the good times and the bad times that women acknowledge the importance of families, friends, neighbors, and community life. As modern society now focuses more on technology, careers, and personal achievements, less emphasis is on family and community. 

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The influx of socialist and feminist principles has infiltrated society and leaves many families without the cherishing stability provided by mothers. The love of a mother does not end at her baby’s first year, second year, or even fifth year. That close care and attention is also required for growth into childhood and adolescence, so that adulthood will not encompass a rude awakening. 

Yet, modern society portrays a “hands-off” type of motherhood. It is one that ignores the importance of simple family life—the need for parents and children to spend time at home without technology constantly at their fingertips. Women are heavily pressured into this “modern motherhood,” as they are expected to create the “perfect” childhood by enrolling toddlers in school, registering them for multiple sports, embracing trends, and attempting “memorable” but financially-straining activities. This “modern motherhood” relies too heavily on materialism rather than ennobling the gifts of imagination and creativity bestowed on children by Almighty God. 

Through difficult times, God leads souls back to their natural and divine purposes in this life. With the onset of events since 2020, many individuals have begun to question the perpetuated view of modern society—one that focuses on scheduling, materialism, and individual satisfaction. There has been a sudden shift, specifically in the case of mothers, who are beginning to question the intentions of societal agendas. The shift is evident in the recent boycotts of businesses who are out-of-touch with their consumers’ needs and choose to focus on wayward “agendas.” 

The voices of mothers remained quiet for many decades, as socialist trends reverberated the ideas that motherhood is not a vocation but only a factor in a means to an end. The value of motherhood has been degraded by modernism to remove an important aspect from the family and from society—the nurturing soul of a mother. For through the stability of mothers, families grow in virtue and communities develop in charity.

There are many small miracles throughout our lives that God sends to awaken our will toward His love. But occasionally, He allows for a tremendous and astonishing event to arouse our senses on a deeper level. God has sent such a miracle in 2023. This event can be witnessed in the exhumed, incorrupt body of Sr. Wilhelmina from the Benedictines of Mary, Queen of Apostles, in Gower, Missouri. 

There is a formal cause investigating this matter, but there is no official declaration by the Church. Yet, there is clearly quite a message from these circumstances. Though this woman was a religious nun, she, too, appears to have had the fostering care of a mother’s soul. Sr. Wilhelmina’s deep love for God, during her life and after her death, has brought many souls to Christ. This is a mother’s love—to offer a devoted, stable affection for all souls for God’s glory. 

God has bestowed specific nurturing gifts upon women to develop their vocations in this world—whether through the religious, married, or single state. There is no limit to the love of a woman, which is shown through her attention to detail (piety), the ability to create structure among chaos (prudence), homemaking (humility), and loving without reserve (charity). Yet, due to Original Sin there are vices to oppose such virtues that can affect the world negatively, and such are very apparent in modern society. 

Motherhood is a gift, and it is of greater value than the world chooses to recognize. There is a great distinction between a father and mother—and each difference between them provides a varied yet complementary means for achieving God’s glory. As Sarah Cain acknowledges that the world is “Yearning for Patriarchy,” so, too, the world is desperately starving to be loved by the heart of a mother. Motherhood is a gift, and it is of greater value than the world chooses to recognize. Tweet This

Our Lady is the model for all women. Through the Blessed Mother’s prayers, she can inflame the hearts of all women to rebuild our battered society so that the shifts continue toward the nuclear family and God rather than personal satisfaction. The lies of feminism and the deception of “modern motherhood” have infiltrated society for long enough. Women must discover and appreciate their God-given gifts; these will assist to amend the hate and destruction, so prevalent in this modern world, that seek to destroy souls.


  • Danielle Heckenkamp

    Danielle Heckenkamp is a wife and mother. She is a contributing writer for several Catholic media outlets.

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